How to deal with change

by Jemma on November 27, 2014

in Health, Well being

Throughout our lifetime we experience lots of changes in all different areas, some are welcomed with open arms and others we would rather not have occurred.  When you are set in a routine it can be hard to adapt and readjust to changes in your life no matter how small.  It’s perfectly acceptable to be scared of change, I think sometimes there’s the tendency to hide our fears and let them bubble under the surface and not speak openly about how we feel.

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My life has taken one major turn recently with a new baby, things are very different that’s for sure, mind, body and soul.  Life as I know it is completely transformed and initially how I was going to handle the changes that motherhood would bring my way was scary.  It’s definitely an overwhelming experience and you are thrown right into the deep end from the very start.  Not only is there the mental changes to deal with, but also the obvious physical changes too, I have a post coming up about that soon.  From my earlier and recent experiences with change, here are some of my tips that have helped me to adapt to new situations and surroundings:

Accept the inevitable

Change is coming your way whether you like it or not, as hard as it may sound, there is no point trying to resist it.  Acceptance that changes are going to or about to happen in your life is probably the first step to dealing with them and makes it a bit easier to deal with when they do come knocking at your door.

Give yourself time to readjust

No matter what changes you are comforted with, it’s OK not to wholly be on board with them in the beginning.  Some changes can be big and it can take time to get used to them.  Giving yourself time to readjust will allow you to become more settled and comfortable in your new set of circumstances.

Let go

Feeling disgruntled, out of sorts and angry with change in the beginning is perfectly acceptable and normal.  However, depending on the situation feeling this way for a long time can cause more harm than good.  When you feel ready, it may be better to just let go and embrace the change with a more positive outlook.

Chase the opportunity

With it change often brings brand new opportunities.  Moving forward, grasping the change with both hands could be exciting and possibly put a positive spin on a bad situation. Also, a time of change could be a chance to take a step back and reassess your life, allowing you to take control and perhaps make your own changes, which you can prepare for in advance.

Leave the past behind you

If there are some bad feelings and negativity surrounding a particular change it’s probably best to leave these in the past or clear the air.  Change is how we progress in life and if you are still firmly rooted in the past you may hinder this process.  Moving on from a bad situation connected with change will help you deal with it better and allow you to start on a clean playing field. 

What changes have suddenly occurred in your life? Are you good at dealing with positive and negative changes?  How do you readjust?   

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I can’t believe that we are approaching the 2-month mark since Aiden’s birth, time is just flying by and I’ll have my 2-month update on the blog shortly.  It’s amazing how much you can pick up in a short space of time.  This post may be slightly premature, but in the very little time in my new role as a mama, not only have I learnt so much about my newborn, but I have learnt so much about myself.  Some things have only become clear to me recently and I would never have guessed some of these realisations were true to me:

I can run on little sleep

Like the majority, I love my sleep, scratch that, I adore my sleep.  Usually, I’m a complete grouch and non-functional if I haven’t had enough sleep, but mamahood has totally turned this concept on its head.  I’m not sure what has happened, but I can deal with very little sleep well, much better than I thought.  I think my body just moves through the motions because it has no choice, but the sleep deprivation was something that I was worried about and although it’s tough I’m glad that I’m coping OK with it. 

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Time to myself is a must

Naturally I’m not a clingy person and I do like to have time to myself just to take some time out and have some alone time with my thoughts, which can be difficult when you have a newborn to look after.  I’m not talking about hours on end, just 5 minutes generally does the trick, but occasionally more time is needed.  This is all linked in with my previous post about selfless acts for yourself, prioritising yourself now and then has never been a crime, baby or no baby. 

I’m quite reflective

Although I do believe in moving forwards and progressing, I’ve noticed, and even more so now with a little one that I enjoy looking at old photos and remembering.  We’ve been taking photos practically every day of Aiden, I’m so scared that we are going to miss something.

Protective of my loved ones

It’s become apparent over the past few weeks that I worry about others a lot, especially those closest to me.  I think it has something to do with my new mama protective instincts and my heightened emotions connected to this part of my life.  Now the slightest hint of something that could potentially go wrong and cause them harm freaks me out.  

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Even though Aiden is far too young to remember his first Christmas, I still want it to be special for him and our family.  We will look back with fond memories and smile at the thought of his first Christmas.  I adore creating special moments to look back on.  When I’m feeling down they act as great pick me ups. 

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Like to make an effort with my appearance 

Most days I wonder why I even change out of my pajamas as we do spend a lot of time at home nowadays. However, to feel like myself I do like to make a bit of an effort particularly when we eventually do make it out of the front door.  A slick of lipstick, a brush through my hair and picking out an outfit can seriously work wonders to give me a boost even if I’m not going very far.  Currently, I’m enjoying shopping for new clothes that are both practical for breastfeeding, stylish and fit my personal style.

I can be quite hard on myself

I hate it when I go off plan or fail to finish something that I had planned to do, it makes me feel so guilty.  Time is so precious now that I have a baby, I’ve had to learn that there are only so many hours in the day and I can’t do it all.  If the housework doesn’t get done or my legs haven’t been shaved then so be it.  Looking after Aiden is far more important to me, everything else can wait. I’m so glad that I’ve realised this sooner rather than later.

What has a certain event in your life taught you about yourself?

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