Today’s society seems to be about living life in the fast-lane. No matter how much you love your job and no matter how much it consumes you, forgetting to focus on yourself could eventually be counter-productive – the less time that we make for ourselves can have a huge impact on our health and wellbeing.
Saying ‘no’ can be one of the hardest things, especially when we are doing our best to impress. The commitments pile up and all of a sudden you are drowning in a sea of tasks that seem never-ending. There is no guilt to be found in admitting that you’re feeling rundown, you love your role at your job, as a parent or caregiver, but sometimes it can be overwhelming. I’m sure a lot of us can relate to this scenario. I have said ‘yes’ to too much in the past, only to be left with a to-do list as long as my arm and felt completely consumed by it all. Taking a step back, being selfish and focusing on ourselves now and then can be one of the most selfless acts that you can do for yourself.
When I’m talking about being selfish for your own benefit, I don’t mean that you become a complete b**tch and give everyone two fingers (although sometimes this may be warranted!). God forbid, that’s not my point at all. Some time to myself no matter how short allows me to indulge my passions, spend time with the people who I love, reorganise and regroup my thoughts and generally just relax. Time to yourself in today’s world is such a blessing and putting yourself first can work wonders for your stress levels and mental health. If you can, schedule a day off or half-a-day where you simply focus on you. You become your main priority and you spend some time doing the things that you love.
Taking time out for yourself doesn’t have to make a hole in your purse either. Not convinced? Well, sitting down reading a book with a cup of tea can be just as effective as going to a spa. Other budget-friendly ways of taking time out could be going for a run, yoga, baking, a walk in the park, making a coffee, watching a movie, a home pamper session or a night in with the girls or loved ones – anything that gives you that feeling of escape.
I already know that my little one is going to keep me on my toes with round the clock care and breastfeeding, let’s not beat about the bush, it’s going to be a challenge. Haley wrote a lovely post about how making time for yourself as a mother is so very important and something that I intend to practise as time allows. Just a snippet in the day or week to yourself can make all the difference to your all round happiness and your body and mind will only thank you for it later.
Do you prioritise yourself now and then? Do you feel guilty for doing this?
How do you practise being selfless to yourself?