Over the past couple of years, I’ve really got into the power of affirmations and the effect that they can have on my overall outlook on things. This was especially so during my pregnancy and the idea appealed to me during my first active labour class, which feels like forever ago now. Starting out I felt so unprepared for the birth and a bit freaked out by it, to be honest, and had doubts about whether I would be able to make it through a natural and unassisted birth. During my class, my teacher read out positive affirmations connected to labour and definitely helped me feel more empowered and confident about birth, which is now why I use them nearly every day or when I need them.
I like to think of myself as a positive person, always seeing the silver lining in every cloud, however with the ebbs and flows of life when it feels like life is throwing everything at us, it’s so easy and understandable why we become so negative and down, but that’s OK. Even though things may feel like total crap at the time, I believe that certain situations are brought to us to test us and facilitate our growth.
Affirmation cards are a massive reminder to me that everything is going to be OK and to stop the negative self-talk. Not only do they help to pull me out of a funk, but they also inspire and instill a sense of hope; I find them incredibly motivational. My first deck of affirmation cards that I ever bought were Miracles Now: Inspirational Affirmations and Life-Changing Tools, by Gabrielle Bernstein, which are great for a guidance and developing a miracle mindset. A few months ago, I also brought the very beautifully illustrated Crazy Sexy Love Notes by Kris Carr, which are full of fantastic reminders focused on self-love and self-care. When in need, I pull one from each deck and pin it to my noticeboard as a constant reminder that everything will be OK.
It sounds unbelievable that repeating a series of positive statements can have such an effect, but they have really made an impression on me. Striving to be positive almost pushes those negative thoughts to the back of the mind. Sure, they still pop up in my head now and then, but having an affirmation to focus my thoughts is really comforting and enables me to find the motivation that I need or to rewrite that script in my head.
Affirmations can be applied to nearly all undesirable situations, whether that is to do with work, family life, health or even the prospect of your car breaking down on the side of the road. Focusing on negative thoughts can generally have harmful effects on your outlook on life and how you handle certain situations. Words can have such an amazing impact on the way that we think and the more we say something the more we believe it to be true. Consequently, repeating statements that are positive relating to specific situations can alter our thought processes, behavior and how we approach things.
There are some great affirmations which can be applied to many situations in this article from the Huffington Post. The great thing about affirmations is that they do not have to be complicated, just a short statement made up of a couple of words will do. As long as they have a positive effect and attempt to dispel any negative thoughts, then you are half way there. Some of my personal favourites include:
- ‘I am strong, fit and healthy.’
- ‘I am worthy of success and I will reach success.’
- ‘I accept myself as I am and who I will continue to be.’
- ‘You are awesome!’
- I’ve chosen to happy because it is good for my health.’
- ‘Small steps forward is still progress.’