The older I get and as my responsibilities increase, the more I realise how important it is to practice self care. There are periods when trying to maintain my version of balance and be kind to myself becomes a struggle. With the demands of a young family, being a mama and running a business, finding the time to look after just me can seem impossible.
It’s incredibly frustrating when you desperately feel that you need some time for yourself, but every attempt is an epic fail. I’ve been there and got the t-shirt many times before and felt utterly exhausted because of it. We’re accountable for so many things and people rely on us to get stuff done. Each life role that we play is important and that makes it essential that we don’t become so distracted and forget to take care of ourselves.
Becoming intentional around self care will come with ease to some and others will find it difficult to strike the perfect balance. Checking in on ourselves when we’ve forgotten to practice self care is just as important as practicing self care because it’s at these times that we tend to need it the most.
With all the overwhelm of everyday life, it can be hard to find some space for self care, but let me show you how with these 5 easy steps.
Schedule a time in your day just for you
What I find helps me no end is writing things down and scheduling things in a planner, even down to my workouts. I rely so heavily on my planner since becoming a parent for clarity and keeping me organised. Writing a time for my 10 minutes of ‘me’ time every day really helps me stay intentional with it and makes it easier to fit in.
If you have a young family, this could be during nap time or before everyone wakes up. Similarly, if you’re heading to work you could use your commuting time to meditate, listen to your favourite playlist or read to practice self care. It’s all about finding a time in your day that works best for you and making the best use of that time.
Dial Down the Digital Noise
How often do you find yourself aimlessly scrolling through your phone? I recently blogged about how to turn your screen time for ‘me’ time because if you’ve got time to scroll, then you’ve definitely got time for self care, it doesn’t have to take that long. Whenever you find yourself scrolling mindlessly, turn off your phone or put it in a drawer and use this time to practice some self care instead. Although, I for one know how easily this can be said than done.
Honestly, I know it sounds like a cliché, but life really does get in the way. If your self care practice doesn’t happen for whatever reason, don’t be too hard on yourself. In all instances of wellness, it’s important to be flexible and accommodating for your own sanity if nothing else. What you had planned for your morning self care practice can be done in the evening or the next day.
Remember it’s OK to say ‘no’
We live in a society, where we feel that we have to give everything for the sake of our own health. While it’s lovely that you’re showing love and appreciation to others, you also have to make yourself a priority. Learning to say ‘no’ isn’t selfish, but a selfless act that can enhance your wellbeing, especially when you’re feeling overwhelmed.
Clear out the negative influences in your life
Sometimes a massive clear out can be like therapy and can have a positive effect on our wellbeing. Every so often, I like to have a declutter to clear out the negative influences in my life and unwanted items to make more space for things that bring me joy, which is a massive dose of self care in itself.