Empowering women to embrace their bodies and love themselves more is something that I’m majorly passionate about. With my own struggles and journey to loving my body better, I know first hand the rewarding and life enhancing benefits that self acceptance brings. Loving yourself is similar to having an epiphany, at this moment you realise that actually I am deserving, I am worthy of my own and others love and you start to take care of yourself on a deeper level.
The body positive movement is a fantastic achievement, that unites and inspires women to accept their bodies regardless of their weight, dress size, race, job, abilities, sexual orientation and so much more. I have so much respect for the bigger voices in this movement (like Taryn Bruffit) who are fighting for representation for more diverse body types in the media, promoting the idea of health at every size and encouraging women to be kinder and more forgiving towards their bodies.
Representation of all bodies is essential to help break down the walls that the dieting mentality has created. The diet culture has birthed so many untruths about what being healthy actually means because it mainly focuses on aesthetics and ignores your emotional health altogether. It promotes the idea that you can only accepted as healthy by society if you are a certain weight or a perfect size. I would like to argue that your perfect weight can be at any size because being healthy goes beyond this, it’s about how you feel on the inside too. Additionally, the one size fits all approach is a failure because we are all different and I admire the body positive movement for highlighting these issues with its representation of diversity.
Even though I’m passionate and proud to be part of the body positive moment in my work, sometimes I do feel like an outsider and it has contributed to more to my insecurities, but admittedly perhaps that says more about me than the movement itself. When you think about body positivity, you tend to think of a specific body type, a large curvaceous woman with rolls. I have put on a little weight over the past few months, however my body type is nothing like the silhouette of the women who the movement promotes. This has made me feel slightly on edge and thoughtful about whether my voice actual counts at all in the body positive world.
Perhaps I’ve got this all wrong and I will hold my hands up if so, I’m still learning and travelling on my journey of self acceptance. However, this is my truth and I feel that I need to get it out there.
My body type probably doesn’t need to be represented as much in the media. I honestly don’t know what it’s like to have rolls, unless I sit down and slouch. I was also scared about writing on this topic because I don’t want to offend anyone or be the ‘normal sized girl’ moaning about being an outsider and make plus size body shapes feel bad. Nevertheless, I still have moments of anxiety surrounding my body image, all women do whatever their size.
There are times when I look in the mirror and scrutinise the way I look or wish that I was smaller to stop the fold of skin hanging over my jeans like it is right now. Weighing myself isn’t something I do, but I can tell that I’ve put on some extra weight due the tightness of some of my clothes, but I’m learning to accept this. Although I am flawed and always working on myself, there are times when I don’t practice what I preach and hate the way I look. I feel insecure and wonder about the rights that I have to serve others on these subjects if I am still healing myself. However, I take comfort in the fact that even though I might not have my sh*t together and even when I’m struggling I still have a voice and I can still be of great service to this world.
The body positive movement isn’t about one size, it’s about every size. It’s about celebrating the diversity of women and the human body. It’s there to empower all women to embrace their bodies and realise that their perfect weight is whatever size they feel happiest because their weight doesn’t determine their size or their destiny.
Even still, whatever your size, body shape, race or abilities, sadly every woman walking this earth will at some point in her life experience feel resentful towards their bodies. Although I may feel like an outsider because my body type is perhaps under represented in the body positive movement I’m still aware that there are women out there who have a ‘normal’ body type are looking for compassion in women of a similar shape to tell them that there is nothing wrong with their body and that they are beautiful just the way they are. At times when I feel unworthy to be part of this incredible movement, I try to tell myself that I do have a voice and message that is worthy to be heard because actually I’m sharing my own personal unique experiences that may resonate with others out there. This is why I do what I do.
P.S. Thank you for making it to the end to this post, it wasn’t supposed to be this long, so thank you for sticking with it!