While I’m preparing to get ready for our new arrival and take a break from the blog for a while, I thought it would be wonderful to start a weekly series to keep the blog ticking over.
As regular readers will know, I’m massive on self care and discovering what we need to truly nourish our bodies to thrive. Self care is highly personal and manifests itself in different ways from the action of self care that makes us feel balanced, the best time to practice it and the benefits that it has on our lives. I thought that it would be great to dig deep into self care and get an insight into what it means to others.
I’ve got some fantastic guests lined up and the first is the gorgeous Nicola Rae Wickham who is a certified coach at A Life More Inspired. I’ve been following Nicola for a while now and her message and wisdom really resonates with me and has motivated me to chase my dreams and bring them to fruition. Oh, her new podcast fast became one of my favourite things to listen to as well!
OK, I’ll stop fangirling now…
What does self care mean to you?
Self care is self-preservation for me. My relationship with self care has certainly changed over the years. The notion of self care being spa days, new hair dos and manicures fundamentally jarred with me as it was all about the outside and nothing to do with how you are really feeling. I’m not going to lie all of those things are great and can certainly help us to feel better, however, we deserve and need self care to go so much deeper than this.
After having my daughter and getting burnt out a few times as a new working mama I realised the true importance of self care and I started to develop my own notion of it. So less pampering on the outside and more meaningful acts that nourish my soul.
It was motherhood and me continuing along my own spiritual and self-discovery journey that showed me how much it is self-preservation as in order for me to be able to be who it is want to be and most importantly how I want to feel I need to practice self care as a lifestyle.
Do you have any self care rituals/practices that really anchor your day?
Being a mum means my self care practices and rituals are flexible to fit around my everyday. I have a toolkit that I’ll dip into depending on what’s happening. It includes journaling, meditation, just being still, going for a walk, yoga, and reading. Really bringing mindfulness and awareness to the everyday things is a big part of my self care.
My nightly bath is an absolute ritual for me. It is me washing off the day and together with my Himalayan bath salts, I am set-up.
What does your morning routine look like?
My morning routine is often interrupted ; ). I set my alarm for an hour before my daughter wakes-up but inevitably on some days I hear the patter of her feet only 10 mins after waking up. As soon as my alarm goes off I’ll run through 3 things I’m grateful for and I’ll set my intention for the day. I also have an affirmation that I set for the day too and so I spend a few moments feeling into that. I go downstairs have a glass of water, make a cup of tea and get my journal out. I’m currently reading The Artists Way and have just started doing morning pages.
How do you make time for self care?
I make time through bringing mindfulness into my everyday activities, so my morning cup of tea, a walk to the post office or my midday coffee becomes self care because I really enjoy it and take a moment to really acknowledge it. I’ll also sometimes journal in the care whilst on the school run if that’s the only time that I have.
I also make time by asking for help. My husband isn’t a mind reader and so if I need time, I need to ask for it rather than expecting those around me to just know what I need. My self-care is my responsibility.
During a challenging point in your life what key things got you through?
Reading has always been a staple for me, so I’ll often turn to books to get me through hard times. In addition, my spiritual belief in a higher power helps to get me through. Knowing that I am part of something bigger and that I am more than my body, situation, or what I do that instead I am a soul has helped me in challenging times.
What’s in your self care toolkit? Which items bring you most comfort?
Journaling, always! Meditation. Connecting with like-minded women. Affirmations, especially mine ; ). Walking. Exercise. Being still. Crystals. Reading.
What quote really resonates with you and why?
“Think like a queen. A queen is not afraid to fail. Failure is another steppingstone to greatness.”
I have so many favourites and this one is certainly up there. So many women let the fear of failure stop them from fully living. Oprah reframes and reclaims failure so beautifully in this quote. If we can all approach it in this way, we could absolutely fly with all our greatness.
What are you currently working on? Anything that you would like to share?
I am currently crushing on my podcast ; ), it launched last month and I love it. Its called the Dream and Do Podcast and it’s for women who are ready to make changes big and small. There are confidence pep talks, soulful insights and all things creativity and wellness. As well as powerful conversations with women who are dreaming and doing in action.
I’m working on really solidifying my brand, I help women take the ideas that are on their hearts in their minds and bring them to life, it encompasses creative coaching, merchandise (affirmation cards + prints) and of course the podcast!
Thank’s so much Nicola! I hope you enjoyed the first installment of my new blog series. Remember to check back next week for another amazing #SelfCareDiaries guest.